Posted by Racer on November 8, 2006, at 12:16:28
In reply to Re: I've Done What You've Said And No Results » Phillipa, posted by madeline on November 7, 2006, at 5:47:31
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> I had one T that spent most of the time telling me about how HE was abused as a child.
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> Another one had me hold a teabag for 5 minutes in order to focus my problems into the tea.
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I've never had anyone suggest I hold a teabag, but I did see one T who spent the first half of the session telling me about her history of bulimia -- including those details like breaking into other people's dorm rooms to steal their food -- to the extent that I wanted to ask her, "And how did that make you feel?"And there was the T who told me that I was "doing it wrong" when I said that her strictly CBT approach wasn't working for me. (For one thing, I told her about the behavioral strategy I used to fall asleep -- it worked for me, mind you -- and she said I shouldn't be doing that. I needed to do what she was telling me to do instead...)
Or the T when I was a teenager who spent whole sessions telling me I was a wicked child, and needed to do exactly what my mother told me to, and devote all my time to making her feel good. That's the one who yelled at me after I was sexually assaulted on the way to her office -- after all, I was late. "You weren't sexually assaulted, you're only a child, no one would see a child sexually." Well, that guy sure did a good imitation of it...
There are some less than stellar practitioners out there. I didn't even include the idiot from that agency who triggered my latest episode of AN. She was a real winner...
As for Phillipa, keep looking. Look for psychodynamic -- or "eclectic," which tends to mean "I do what I think works best" -- and keep "interviewing" Ts until you find a good one. It's expensive, but you can save a lot of time and money by doing mini telephone interviews before you make an appointment. "Hi, I'm looking for a T who's a good fit. I am not looking for a short-term, goal oriented CBT therapist right now, because I think I need to work through some stuff in my past. What is your orientation? How do you feel about processing past trauma? Et cetera."
Good luck.
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