Posted by Jost on November 4, 2006, at 19:12:04
In reply to Re: Another cr*ppy session » Jost, posted by Dinah on November 4, 2006, at 0:59:59
Wife's Office????? No, nope, na-huh, no way, wha???, thinkagain, sorry no-can-do!
okay, how are you supposed to deal with that? Maybe he is disconnected.
Once my T and I discussed spouses who share offices. Thank goodness he averred complete non-approval of that. Otherwise I"m not sure he could be my T.
Maybe the office change is dislocating-- to coin a phrase. It sounds like a technicality, or inconvenience, but maybe it has deeper meanings. Maybe it evokes something you're not aware of, and couldn't necessarily explain or even understand.
And what would make the pdoc from h*ll change? the new prefrontal cortex transplants? hasn't you T noticed how hard it is for people to change, even when they aren't pdocs?
It's even harder for a pdoc to change-- sort of like the rich getting into heaven or something.
Maybe his making it harder for to you to see him, even if you know, intellectually he's not doing it to thwart or frustrate, estrange or hurt you-- maybe it somehow does-- maybe it feels as if you shouldn't have to work any harder than you are?
It might not be the specifics of the move-- but the impendingness of some change-- which isn't recent.
He was going to take that other job-- and then he was maybe going to take an other job-- maybe all that disarranges things-- It's as if there's sense of relaxation and informality on the surface (ie when you're together)-- but some quiet, unspoken, but ominous discomposure of things-- unpredictable, uncertain-- but very much in the air-
maybe that's gotten to you. Or maybe some of the schisms of other moves-- I remember there was such huge shift that didn't happen, but was promised, in May or June-- that really upset you. It isn't that long ago-- at least in my psychic time--
When do you think the disconnect starter, or got more difficult to move through?
I'd be pretty disturbed if my T was about to move-- anywhere, including across the street. (Of course, across the street is a park, so it would be kind of chilly in the winter on the benches.)
Wife's office?????? oh, you got to be kidding!
Jost
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