Posted by Jost on November 3, 2006, at 22:30:03
In reply to Another cr*ppy session, posted by Dinah on November 3, 2006, at 18:27:10
What actually happens, literally, in a detailed way (not that you have to tell the details--any or all)-- when "everything" is "all wrong"?
Because if you can even just describe what it is-- you may figure out something.
Do you walk in and feel stuck? like you don't know what to say? disappointed? like if you say x, he'll say y-, you already kind of feel like you've discussed it, and shouldn't need to go through it "again"-- and if so, what is it you've already discussed-- ie what was/wasn't said?
is there something you want without being able to identify it-- ?
I don't know. Somehwere in the details or what you said, or didn't say, or how you sat, or he sat, or what you thought about, and what stopped you from talking, or what you talked about, I don't know. there are clues to what you do need.
I'm sure you do need him. You don't stop needing people who are that important because you're better. You might need them in a different way, and do different things with them-- but you don't stop needing them.
I know that's not the theory, but I think therapy is evolving-- into a different thing from what it was-- when it was created. Don't know into what, maybe many things-- sometimes a permanent relationship-- if a strangely constituted, and hard to rationalize one (at least hard, thus far).
Jost
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