Posted by Jost on October 31, 2006, at 18:03:13
In reply to Re: I cannot do this » jammerlich, posted by Anneke06 on October 31, 2006, at 16:31:16
Jammerlich, when you do something this hard, it's frightening, and it feels out of control.
Maybe this terrible panic is part of the feelings that you've got from earlier times, and maybe it's going to feel really too much. Because you're facing feelings and memories that were and maybe are, for the moment still, too much.
It doesn't have to stay this way, though.
You don't have to reexperience the old trauma. I know you might not be able to feel that now-- but I'm hoping that you will.
Perhaps that was your experience once-- but fears don't have to be repeated forever, even if it's really hard now.
If you need her to back off, to let it rest for a while before you're ready to bring it up again, I have a feeling she'll accept that. You need to let her know. A good T would'nt want you to go too fast, wouldn't want you to re-experience too much before you're ready.
A good T will also realize that you've taken a big step, and that part of what someone who's experienced these things needs is to feel in control of how and when it's brought up now. That's part of having a different and better experience with her.
You can do it. It's hard, but I hope you will be able to tell her some of what you need, even if you couldn't tell anyone in the past.
Jost
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