Posted by joslynn on October 31, 2006, at 13:02:59
In reply to My therapist really screwed up, posted by jammerlich on October 24, 2006, at 16:46:03
I'm sorry that happened.
I have a really good T, but I have noticed that when I do bring things in for her to read, she doesn't seem as interested as when I say things out loud.
I brought in some therapuetic poems I had written, and was expecting that during the next session, we would have this big talk about them, with her writing comments on the poems like an english teacher. But that didn't happen. (To be honest, I don't remember what we spoke about, maybe the content in general, but not speciffics.) Since I am a writer by trade, this hurt me.
Over time though, I have realized that she is more interested in what I say here and now, in that room, or even on the phone. It's just a thing of hers.
She is a really good therapist in every other way, she is just more interested in what I say than in what I write. I think she wants me to find my voice in person. So I decided to let that one go and try to verbalize more things in person.
However, I don't have anything as traumatic as CSA in my background, so it's easier for me to say things in person than it is for a CSA survivor.
I'm not saying you shouldn't be hurt, just offering the idea that it could be that your T is more interested in your words in person, and what you say in the room. Of course, to us here, the written things are just as important, but I don't think they truly get that sometimes.
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