Posted by mair on October 17, 2006, at 17:56:23
In reply to Re: Thank you everyone » mair, posted by Daisym on October 13, 2006, at 18:18:06
I'm sorry I didn't respond to your last post, which I loved and did find helpful. I contracted one of those head colds that made it difficult for me to string two cogent thoughts together. Also my son showed up for the weekend from college, largely, I think, to transfer all the stress he feels about finding a job for next year (he's a senior), onto his easily stressed parents. Don't you have a son who's a senior also? I seem to recall that you were taking him to college 3 years ago at around the same time I was.
I probably know lots more about my T, and her life, than do many people. Sometime I think I might be better off knowing less, and other times I find myself getting annoyed when some significant piece of information is given me or discovered long after the fact - like it reinforces that feeling that I'm unimportant to her. I'm not sure there is a happy medium at all. She's always been pretty okay about answering personal questions, but I try not to abuse that. And when we have gotten involved in a discussion about some event in her life and how that might affect me, it's always amazing, and actually a little horrifying, how easily I can put her stuff in the background in favor of just talking about my stuff. But regardless, to my detriment, I'm constantly censoring those feelings I have which I deem to be immature; I'm always the adult who wishes that I could let myself be the selfish needy little kid - I never really saw what a valuable therapeutic tool that kind of regression could be until I started hanging around this board.
I'm pretty sure normalcy is what my T wants right now - I think she wants her patients bringing to her problems that aren't related to her. I hope that will be fine, although I'm also sure, when her illness is more demonstrable, that it will be really difficult for me not to feel pretty upset, and not to ask her a whole bunch of questions that she probably won't want to answer.
I guess I'll just have to come running here for that kind of processing. (-;
Thanks again
mair
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