Posted by Dinah on October 7, 2006, at 10:36:47
How do you keep therapy fresh?
I, in my most intellectual mode, am still smarting. I don't usually go see my therapist in intellectual mode, but I did on Tuesday, and told him of several things that were bothering me. Babble distress. Work distress. And he tells me "Sounds like another babble drama to me." in a rather final tone. Kind of killed the conversation, and made me feel like I was bringing to him something I shouldn't. At the next session, when I told him how I felt, he responded that it wsan't his intention to "diss" me, but that really was how he saw it.
That's a specific example, and one that bothers me rather a lot because I wondered why on earth I bothered going.
But I think it's the hazard of long term therapy.
"I'm really upset because my husband..." "Well, that definitely sounds like him."
"My mother seems to have lost interest in my son." "Yes, she's really only interested in very young children, isn't she."
"I don't understand why... (angrily)" "I know you don't. (gently, almost tenderly or sometimes in amusement)"
"Do you think maybe you feel anger at your mother for more than just (running off and leaving her house moldy) (spending her entire retirement savings) (not calling you or answering your calls when you have practical matters you need to discuss with her) (forcing you to be the bad guy about money)? Do you think you have some anger with her about older things?" "Good grief yes. I thought I'd made that clear."
He does seem to want to explore my feelings about my mother and brother, but I guess my feelings aren't as deep as they should be, because I've pretty much exhausted them.
Been there, already talked that to death. Seems like the course of conversation for most things I bring up, except maybe when we talk about him. I'm getting a chance to know him better, I guess.
I feel like I'm boring. Or at least that we don't have issues to explore any more. I can't bear to lose him. But what on earth do we talk about? What did you watch on TV last night? Did you see any good movies lately? He's not my friend, he's my therapist, and I like it that way. And I would never ever want to lose him.
But how do I keep it fresh?
I know I've asked this before, especially before Katrina.
poster:Dinah
thread:692687
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