Posted by Daisym on September 29, 2006, at 22:49:37
In reply to therapy, yoga and t's comments ...., posted by annierose on September 29, 2006, at 16:50:14
Hi Annie,
There must be something in the air. We talked about touch yesterday too. I told him that for the first time in our relationship I was afraid of him - physically afraid. The young 5 year old part wants so much to hold his hand and the rest of me is terrified he'll say yes, but only if he gets what he wants too. (I know he doesn't really want sex, but that is what I'm afraid of...) I completely realize how old this is...but it is scary how much I want him to hold me and make the pain go away.
And yet, as scary as it is, it still hurts to know that he won't. Those boundaries really hurt when we are bumping up against primal needs.
I think you are going to have to keep talking about what it would mean to you if she did hug you, and how you feel when she doesn't. And why did her tone hurt so much -- who did it remind you of?
All these things about our relationship with our therapists are supposed to help us know ourselves and our needs better. But I'm having a hard time wanting anyone else to fill these needs -- and somehow I don't think I'm alone in this. It is a trust thing, I think.
I hope you find a way to know what you need to know.
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