Posted by alexandra_k on September 17, 2006, at 10:29:17
In reply to Re: I've been bad, posted by muffled on September 16, 2006, at 9:41:09
> I feel that mt T OFTEN doesn't 'get it'. I guess its hard to try and understand anothers experience exactly...
Yeah. Sounds like you are figuring out how to communicate with your t though. My t doesn't seem to want to talk about feelings except insofar as trying to reframe them...
And she doesn't want to talk about the past either...
And she doesn't seem to understand about transference (I broached it in a fairly safe way talking about 'other peoples' behaviour).
She doesn't seem interested in process issues either...
I think maybe we are just mismatched.
> ***My T talks LOTS and its GREAT. Cuz she'll talk, and do the writing thing on the board, and it helps to try and define stuff more, cuz she'll keep asking me 'does that make sense?'. Sometimes yes, sometimes no, sometimes I off in another land!Thats good.
My t talks... And sometimes I feel like... She is digging herself into a bit of a hole. Maybe she is nervous. I try and help her out... But we just can't seem to connect.> ***And, funnily enough, I thot to myself..'Alex is such a sweety. I wonder if she is trying to protect her T's, cuz she got alot of really intense stuff inside. I wonder if she is afraid to let it out???'
I'm mostly afraid for me. That it will come up and won't be able to be put away again. For her too... But mostly... Selfish. Because of me. And some things... I can't communicate to her. I've taken risks. Really. Tried to tell her things that were really very important to me. And... She tries to reframe... She tries to interpret what is going on. I think she misses the mark mostly... But she is trying... And I try and help her... But... It just isn't going so well... When the risks don't pay off... I just leave feeling misunderstood and disconnected. But hardest is knowing that she really is trying...
She must sense this too?
Mustn't she?
Maybe she will be relieved if I mention about seeing someone else if that is possible...> So I dunno Alex, is there any chance you could put some thots for an agenda for your session on paper?
I think we need to have a chat about what we are doing and where we are going. Because she seems to think of it as brief supportive but you know... I can talk to friends for brief supportive. What I really need is a t.
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