Posted by Tamar on August 28, 2006, at 19:21:12
In reply to Re: Overcoming phobias, past it bitting me in the butt » Tamar, posted by happyflower on August 28, 2006, at 18:49:44
> Yeah, I LOVE music, but singing out loud freaks me out, even other people singing around me makes me feel uncomfortable. I can't even sing happybirthday . I hate going to concerts where they have the audience sings like X-mas carols and stuff.
Hmmm… Not being able to sing Happy Birthday is a pretty serious sign, especially in someone who has kids!
> I don't know what caused this fear, but I have had it for as long as I can remember (like grade school)
The cause might have nothing to do with singing, of course. And maybe it’s not as significant as dealing with the fact that this phobia exists.
> I hate to single me out to the instructor, he he kinds knows me too as a musican, so there is intense embarrestment even admitting it to him. I wouldn't even come close to signing up for this class if I knew there would be singing in it. LOL
Well, I can imagine it’s embarrassing. There’s something a bit embarrassing about most phobias. Hey, I’m scared that slugs will attack me, and jump on me and bite me; that’s pretty embarrassing. But I’d bet that your instructor will have heard it before. Lots of people hate singing in public. Your case is more severe than most, I think, but I doubt it’s incurable!
> Maybe it would give me some self confidence if I could grin and bear it anyways. We had to fill out these info forms about ourselves and it asked how much we sing. I said NEVER. LOL Do you think he might guess from my answer? Man, I signed up for this required class (even though I could pick another "art"), I thought it would be an easy A. I wasn't expecting it to be the biggest challenge of my life. Yikes. I just don't know what to do.
I think that facing it is the best way forward. Mind you, it’s easy for me to sit here and say that, when there are no slugs in the vicinity putting on their bibs, brandishing their cutlery and licking their little slug lips…
Maybe you’re not ready for singing in the shower… Maybe you could start by singing along to some of your favourite songs on a CD. What do you think?
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