Posted by Racer on August 24, 2006, at 13:38:56
In reply to my t, posted by Estella on August 24, 2006, at 3:03:12
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> why can't i just be happy that she is willing to work with me?Maybe because that's not enough?
Honestly, maybe a little more relevant experience and skill would improve the whole picture. The fact that she doesn't have them does not mean that YOU lack gratitude. It means that SHE lacks relevant skills and training.
As for the "no meds" business, it's ever so easy for people to stand back and say, "The Proper Way to Get Over depression/anxiety/whatever, is through Talk Therapy and Hard Work." Great -- if you don't have to do ANYTHING else at all. I mean, I wouldn't need the meds, and could do it with only therapy (ha!) -- if I didn't have to do anything else that taxed my resources, like dress myself, brush my teeth, shower... I've got an opinion on this, so I'll stop before I start banging my shoe against the table...
(Am I the only one here who kinda misses Khrushchev?)
As for the fact that you needed more, and that need could have been, you know, foreseen, lemme tell you a little about what happened to me a couple of years ago. Some here may remember this, so forgive the repeat...
I didn't have insurance, was being seen by The Agency From A Very Warm Climate, where I was assigned to the Therapist With Delusions Of Adequacy. She triggered a recurrence of anorexia, as well as agoraphobia, hugely increased anxiety, etc. When it became clear that I was getting MUCH worse daily under her "care," I was transferred.
Keep in mind: I was no down to a BMI of about 17 or so. I wasn't able to leave the house, except to come to appointments there. I couldn't make eye contact with anyone, for any reason. I was in bad shape.
You'd think they'd find someone clearly competent, with experience, someone who wouldn't make things even worse, right?
HA!
They handed me off to an intern, who was Not Helpful. By the time I told her I was not going to continue therapy with her, I was down another ten pounds, and was in even worse shape. It took about another year and a half to recover enough to be even marginally functional.
So, no -- it doesn't necessarily follow that they'll make decisions that are in your favor. I'm sorry this happened to you, but I hope it helps to know you're not alone.
Good luck, Essie.
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