Posted by muffled on August 21, 2006, at 12:39:20
In reply to Re: I SCREWED up dammmit :-( » muffled, posted by Jost on August 15, 2006, at 23:49:19
> Muffled, don't panic. Your T may not have thought/felt what you're afraid of. Could be she didn't handle things well--maybe didn't say the right thing, or the thing that would help you, in the momentt
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> Maybe she's unsure of herself, and that came across to you as disapproval. Esp. because she might have worried that she had hurt or disturbed you with talking about integration.
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> Even if she was weirded out-- because she hadn't realized--remember, that alone can cause people to feel strange-- if they have thought they understood, and suddenly realize they haven't--
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> And even if you wrote something that might seem intense, or be about something your T doesn't understand yet-- and she wanted to wait rather than react too quickly. I'm sure she's going to want to understand better. And you might understand better with her-- both of you might find out new things about you.
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> Don't close the door. Give your T, and yourself, some time.
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> Most importantly: You haven't screwed up. That's the one thing here that I"m sure of. You took a chance. That's great.
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> Okay? This could take a while-- and it could be bumpy, but it's an important important step.
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> Get some rest, and have a little faith.***This was sure a perfect post at the time Jost. Just what I needed. I'm sorry I never asked first, but this is one of the ones I sent to my T.
Thank you SO much.
Babblers are great aren't they?
Take care,
Muffly
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