Posted by Dinah on August 18, 2006, at 8:25:26
In reply to stupid, pissy and overwhelmed (trigger), posted by pegasus on August 17, 2006, at 22:30:50
You aren't stupid, but it does sound like you're seriously stressed. Everything you described sounds like severe stress. Been there, currently doing that.
Under stress we tend to revert to old coping mechanisms. Can you think of any of any healthy coping mechanisms you aren't using right now?
Ok, ok, I know that when I'm under a lot of stress, a side effect is that I just don't have the time to exercise or do yoga, even if I wanted to - which I don't.
But can you at least be nicer to yourself. Instead of berating yourself, can you nonjudgementally note that your cumulative stressors are outweighing your abilities to cope in a healthy manner? And wherever possible, seek to relieve some pressure and some stress. Even if it's as simple as taking a restroom break when things get heated or you find yourself ready to blow. It's legitimate, you need a moment's rest.
And remember, she's following someone who was recognized as being pretty darn good and valuable to the company. She might be feeling the need to exert her own control over the job. In other words, she might be feeling pretty stressed as well, and acting it out by being a bit of a jerk. It's a shame, but it happens. It's no reflection on you. She just needs to claim the fire hydrant.
Remember to breathe. Deeply and slowly.
poster:Dinah
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