Posted by Tamar on June 30, 2006, at 20:00:32
In reply to I just really wish, posted by crushedout on June 30, 2006, at 18:03:41
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> that I could keep my wits about me when I was mad. Stay super calm, and say exactly the right thing to cut the person down without losing my cool or resorting to name-calling.If you figure it out, let me know! I get all shaky and my lower lip trembles. I look like I’m about to cry.
> I wish I could do that. I'm terrible at it. I can't see straight once I get mad.
Me neither. One thing I have found that works very well is to use big words. Stuff like “Oh do be quiet, you ridiculous woman” seems to be more effective than “Shut the f*ck up, you total *ss-face.” Make sure you sound very superior, and as calm as possible. Calmness will win the day.
I’m a convert to having just one phrase that you can practice rather than trying to think on your feet when you’re feeling agitated. If you can say, “I don’t talk to rude people; go away,” every time someone is rude to you, you’ll get used to saying it and it won’t be so difficult to find something to say.
I reckon rude people are usually looking for a fight, and nothing frustrates them as much as not giving them one. I’m a b*tch, eh?!
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