Posted by llrrrpp on June 28, 2006, at 20:51:06
In reply to Re: My T got me figured out, I think » llrrrpp, posted by Dinah on June 28, 2006, at 20:37:12
> Are you leaving for your trip?
I leave in 6 days -thanks for asking :)
>
> Sounds like you had a session like I did. :) We were calmly discussing my... dysfunctional coping responses.Yep. One of those.
> Would you believe that he said that although it wasn't clinically wise at the time to tell me so, he was glad when I called him a b*stard to his face? He says it was a healthy expression of my anger.
I had a lovely opportunity to go for it. T's cell phone rang. and he TOOK the call. for real. And I was pretty grumpy. and then we were back to talking. and I was about to say something important- and the CELL PHONE RANG again. and he took the call. I almost thought it was staged, but it wasn't, because it was too random. Anyways. I had TWO opportunities to deal with my frustration. and I let them slip. bummer. I'm going to cut him some slack, because this has never happened before, and because it was obviously some kind of emergency with his kids, and I think family is more important than work. So.
> Go figure what will please these therapists. :)
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> The hard part comes when they offer healthy alternatives that aren't quite as effective as the unhealthy ones. My therapist is still trying to convince me to give up short term relief in order to practice long term improvements in my coping skills.yeah. like- I'm supposed to deal with my anger- not by releasing it in an llrrrpptantrum, but rather to calmly say what is bothering me and why. I haven't got the self control to calmly say anything. I just seethe on the inside when someone disrespects me. OR, I send them an angry e-mail. smile to their face, and 3 hours later, an e-mail bomb awaits them in their inboxes. What a freak I am.
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