Posted by annierose on June 27, 2006, at 22:58:39
In reply to Re: Deep Inhale » annierose, posted by fallsfall on June 27, 2006, at 20:19:15
Yes, we do get that connection we are longing for from our T's. That is ONE of the reasons their absences are so painful --- something that was available to us every week at our special time has gone away.
I can just picture your house with that window and you looking through it wishing your mom would notice, not just "you" but all of you. Sometimes I worry I'm that mom. Doing stuff and not just being with them. I work hard at it and am not always successful. It took my T more than a few weeks of understanding how lacking I am in the "mom" department. I have zero frame of reference for how a mother talks to a child when they are hurt, sad, disappointed, happy, jealous. I don't know what to say. Now my T helps give me some dialogues --- very helpful, especially with my daughter.
My dad? Well, I think he meant well. But he worked every single day of his life --- 7 days a week. (He took off only Christmas day and complained every Christmas, "I should be working") Came home to a messy house, unhappy wife and 5 dsyfunctional children. What can you say? After dinner, my mom went to bed, my dad read us stories, played games and put us to bed. But he was angry most of the time. He did everything. I do believe he truly loves my mom, just doesn't understand emotions.
What was your dad like? Was he more available?
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