Posted by orchid on June 21, 2006, at 21:49:19
In reply to Re: How do you move on from an abusive childhood? » happyflower, posted by Tamar on June 21, 2006, at 19:29:40
I second Tamar, and no I could never say it better than she has.
Also, from my experience, many Ts will only help you do reasonably well ie, if you are worse to start with and you make it up to the point of doing good, then they will be happy with it, and will not strive to help you make extremely happy and positive and living life fully. If you are ok, and doing reasonably well, then most Ts shrug at that point and would want to live your life on your own (from my exp).
I think you are already doing quite allright, and the rest of the life is yours to figure out and take and doing what you enjoy doing. There is no need to become better - just to enjoy. Find things which you like to do, and keep yourself amused at life, and when the bad things do come up every now and then, spend some time to understand where they are coming from, and deal with it, and then move on to the next fun thing. There is no need to strive to become better or perfect. You can even be completely lousy if you are happy :-) Unless if you think there is still some buring pain or issue that needs to be addressed, and you constantly feel empty or meaningless or not being able to enjoy, I think you even need not probe into yourself any further. And happiness doesn't usually come from probing or gaining too much insight, it comes really from just living a positive and fun filled life.
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