Posted by B2chica on June 21, 2006, at 10:31:41
In reply to Re: Losing my grip » curtm, posted by llrrrpp on June 21, 2006, at 9:42:54
oh ((((((((curt)))))))))
you are so terribly hard on yourself. you do Not fail at everything.
you know right now it's hard enough trying to just deal with your own stuff. but when you are in a relationship, a whole other set of rules come into play. it's so terribly hard for communication in any relationship. but i think when you have emotional turmoil that you are trying to deal with on top of that it is especially difficult. you have to be able to keep your own emotions in tack but also allow them the time they may need to accept and understand on their own. this is a horrible time (at least it was for me). my hubby and i had constant battles that i wasn't even close to being up for. because much of the time he thought "it was all in my head" that i was making it worse than it was, that i didn't HAVE to be so sad (or anxious) if i didn't want to be. so your' dealing with the physical issues at hand but also guilt from others making you feel bad and denial from others.i don't know if these are any issues you may be dealing with. but even if they aren't. just dealing with any 'significant others' 'issues' on top of what you are going through emotionally is one h@ll of a task.
so please give yourself (and her) time. unfortunately it's the only thing that has consistantly helped me.
just hang in there curt.
i hope i made some sense.
we're here.
and i'm glad you are seeing your T.
b2c
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