Posted by happyflower on June 20, 2006, at 20:28:13
In reply to Re: I'm embarassed to post, posted by tryingtobewise on June 20, 2006, at 19:36:20
Hi Dinah,
I had a feeling you would still go back to him, I understand, really. A lot of people here have told me my T isn't good for me, but he is mostly. I think part of therapy is working on the theraputic relationship. I am not sure why I am taking my anger out on my T lately, but it must be for a reason. But I still got hurt, but yet I wonder if the reason I am hurt has really nothing to do with him so much, so me taking my anger out on someone who won't hurt me physically and will still accept me and take me back. People in real life don't always do that.
So what I am getting at is, that maybe some of your hurt is coming from something other than him. I am just guessing, but do you want more from your T than a theraputic relationship? Are you wanting something he can't really give you? I know I do, and after 10 years I would want to feel extra special to him too, not just a client.
I also think we want to believe our T are like superhuman too. And when they don't live up to that, it kinda makes me anyways insecure. Like they can really be REAL, and leave us or die on us or something.
I think your T like a lot of other people is still feeling the effects of Katrina. I bet a lot of other T's are having a hard time trying to keep together. Usually when we talk about the bad stuff of our life, it is personal to us, but Katrina isn't just your pain, it is his too, and I think it must be hard to keep his families pain separate from yours. I am sure he needs therapy too. But this is no excuse for hurting you though, I don't want you think I am saying that. I have a feeling that both of you are hurting and just want things to be normal again. I think it will come for you Dinah, I really do . ((((Dinah))))
poster:happyflower
thread:657367
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20060615/msgs/659435.html