Posted by fairywings on June 9, 2006, at 19:58:18
In reply to Cant keep this secret from my T anymore, posted by bent on June 8, 2006, at 11:57:13
Hi Bent,
I remember your original post on this and how upset you were. I completely understand how you feel, the maternal transference, and how afraid you are of abandonment.
How much has your T shared with you about herself? Does she tend to be pretty open? Or is she completely private? Maybe that will give you some clue as to how she will respond to you.
Maybe if you tell her upfront how afraid you are of abandonment, she'll realize what a big issue this is for you. I'm sure she'll understand you aren't going out of your way to see her when she isn't aware. Just the fact that you're so concerned about how her feelings seems to indicate you wouldn't violate her trust.
I hope you're able to talk to her about it because it seems to really be eating you up.
fw
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