Posted by Karolina on June 6, 2006, at 23:14:54
In reply to hugs..., posted by Karolina on June 3, 2006, at 15:54:57
thanks curtm, ElaineM and fairywings.
fairywings - that's a good idea to talk about it beforehand, to kind of 'prepare' myself for the last appointment but also to let him know how I feel about the hugging situation. It'd be good to talk about, because that way I wouldn't feel devastated on the last day if he didn't offer one. And even if we do talk about it and he says it's not acceptable (which would kind of make me mad, seeing as he already had given a hug, and an intimate hug at that) then I can be able to share how that makes me feel.
ElaineM - I really worry about my T stumbling across my messages too. This might come off wrong but in what ways does your T touch you? (I don't mean necessarily in a sexual way, but wondering if it's like hugs or a hand on the shoulder type of thing) I can see how that would kind of make you feel uneasy because you probably weren't expecting it when he just started to randomly. I felt nervous the times my T touched me too. I wanted it, but then felt kind of nervous if he actually did. I agree. Touch is a difficult subject to talk about and process the meanings behind it. It was strange but after my T and I had pulled apart, he kept his hand on my shoulder and continued to look at me. His eye contact was so intense I had to look off to the side. Maybe it was imagination but he was standing so close to me and it felt like he was thinking about kissing me. I do often fantasize about situations going out of control with him...
curtM - here's an (((electronic hug))) =)
-Karolina-
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