Posted by Dinah on June 6, 2006, at 10:55:58
In reply to Re: Maybe my therapist really is magic, posted by B2chica on June 6, 2006, at 9:13:29
to each other about me. Narcissistic of me?
My therapist of course understood me better, because he's trained to do things like that. But they were both very positive, while still honest, and it felt nice.
My husband and I have been getting along much better since the whole family was holed up for a month in a hotel room. Go figure.
I think I came away with the conviction that while I rely on my therapist for support and consider him my therapist mommy, my mental health would overall be better with a happy husband who has a stable job than insisting on staying with my therapist.
Which doesn't mean I won't tantrum.
And I made my husband promise that if we moved, he'd never be able to worry about losing his job to me again. He'd have to hire a therapist for that, because I just can't tolerate the anxiety. I'm getting some "old pain" signals there that I'm going to consider.
My husband on the other hand seems to have decided it would be wiser to stay. I haven't figured out why yet.
My therapist did tell my husband that even if I quit my job, he thought I'd benefit from ongoing therapy wherever I was. That my job and stress played a big role in my need for therapy, but that wasn't all there was. And he asked me if I didn't think I was better when I had therapy. I turned to the person who'd best know, my husband, and he answered in surprise that yes, I was much better. I wryly observed that that was likely because he used to get a share of the cr*p my therapist puts up with from me, and they were both amused, but seemed to agree.
I hope he didn't decide he'd rather stay here so he didn't have to get my cr*p again. :)
It's still up in the air, but I believe we're going to decide for good today based on external variables. We have a plan.
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