Posted by Tamar on June 5, 2006, at 16:58:37
In reply to Re: Competitive? Me? » Tamar, posted by fairywings on June 4, 2006, at 21:51:15
> If you quit working with him, would you start with someone else? Do you think you'll bring up how you're feeling about working with him?
I couldn't start with someone else. It's him or no one. I want it to be him. And you're right, I really need to talk more about how frustrated I am at the moment.
> LOL, I'll never forget when you said... at some point they should just come right out and ask us, "Do you love me yet?"! It's a burning question! I know I have transference because I want to "try on" every role with my T - I want to know what it would be like to have him for a father, husband, friend, pet....makes me feel really sad to think about it. Is it odd to wonder about all of those things? I'm afraid to tell him!
I don't think it's odd to wonder about that kind of thing. I'd never thought of being my therapist's pet, but I really like the idea! I think I'd like to be his kitten, and he would feed me and give me milk to drink and I'd curl up on his knee in the evenings and he'd stroke me. Oh yes!
> You hit the nail on the head when you said it's exhausting trying to figure out what they mean...I often wonder if I get something other than what's intended.
I'm certain that a great deal of the time we don't really understand each other!
> I wish I were more direct with bosses. I'm good about it with healthcare providers, because I figure I can always find someone else...I let my pdoc take control because he's always been reasonable, but I've left other providers because they were idiots! ; ) Good thing we live in a city where we have some choice of providers.
Yeah, choice is a good thing. And I suppose we can't usually choose our bosses!
> It doesn't seem unreasonable to expect to be a partner in your treatment. Is it possible his ego might be too big to handle it. (?) I'm so glad I switched - my last T could never admit he was wrong! He was! ; )
Yeah, a massive ego would get in the way. I don't know whether my therapist has a big ego. I don't think so. He's quite informal.
> Good luck with your T. I hope you can either work it out, or find someone you like better.
> fwThanks fw!
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