Posted by fairywings on June 4, 2006, at 21:51:15
In reply to Competitive? Me? » fairywings, posted by Tamar on June 4, 2006, at 6:19:44
If you quit working with him, would you start with someone else? Do you think you'll bring up how you're feeling about working with him?
LOL, I'll never forget when you said... at some point they should just come right out and ask us, "Do you love me yet?"! It's a burning question! I know I have transference because I want to "try on" every role with my T - I want to know what it would be like to have him for a father, husband, friend, pet....makes me feel really sad to think about it. Is it odd to wonder about all of those things? I'm afraid to tell him!
You hit the nail on the head when you said it's exhausting trying to figure out what they mean...I often wonder if I get something other than what's intended.
I wish I were more direct with bosses. I'm good about it with healthcare providers, because I figure I can always find someone else...I let my pdoc take control because he's always been reasonable, but I've left other providers because they were idiots! ; ) Good thing we live in a city where we have some choice of providers.
It doesn't seem unreasonable to expect to be a partner in your treatment. Is it possible his ego might be too big to handle it. (?) I'm so glad I switched - my last T could never admit he was wrong! He was! ; )
Good luck with your T. I hope you can either work it out, or find someone you like better.
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