Posted by Tamar on June 3, 2006, at 14:37:21
In reply to Re: sex after......., posted by starloree on June 3, 2006, at 13:58:19
About the rape fantasy thing: it's extremely common, and it DOES NOT mean you want to be raped. It's particularly common in people who have been raped or sexually assaulted, but plenty of people with no history of being assaulted have rape fantasies.
In people who have been raped it can be a way to try to imagine a similar experience but with less trauma and distress.
Also, many people who have been sexually assaulted have fantasies about being a rapist. It's totally normal (and very common in men who have been abused in childhood) and it doesn't mean they want to rape anyone. It's also very common for people who have been abused as children to have fantasies about abusing children. It DOES NOT mean they are a danger to children; it's a way of processing their *own* experience.
Whether or not people have been raped, a rape fantasy is often a way of imagining having a powerfully physical sexual experience without the necessity of have an emotional experience. A rape fantasy can involve the idea of being allowed to have dangerous and limitless sex without the fear of becoming emotionally entangled.
Sometimes the emotions that happen during sex (or rape for that matter) can be scarier than the physical aspect of the experience.
Just my two cents...
Tamar
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