Posted by happyflower on April 6, 2006, at 9:49:47
In reply to Re: Well I did it, oh, my! » happyflower, posted by annierose on April 5, 2006, at 20:20:56
> >>> Now I feel like I have to watch what I say and how I say it.<<<
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> Can you explain further what you meant by that? Are you talking about in therapy? or in life?Well I am learning through therapy that what you say and how you say it says a lot about what you feel and think of yourself, which in my case I am too critical of myself due to low self esteem in some areas. Then when you think negative about yourself,and then say negative stuff, you almost fulfill the belief even if the belief is wrong or exaggerated.
So I need to talk more positive about myself, so that becomes part of me instead of the negative stuff. I am not sure if I am saying this right so you can understand what i am saying.
So my T is challenging my blanket statements and black and white thinking all the time, it drives me crazy sometimes, because sometimes it seems like he isn't really listening to WHAT I am saying, more of HOW I am saying it. But last night he explained that he does know how I feel and when he corrects or reframes what I say, he isn't trying to make less of my feelings.
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