Posted by Racer on April 3, 2006, at 1:15:50
In reply to Please help I don't know what to do, posted by Karolina on April 3, 2006, at 0:19:33
Could go either way, really. It could be that he can still help you, and it could be that he hasn't helped you as much as necessary so far. The thing is, there's not really a good way to tell, especially not from the other side of a computer screen...
You probably have a pretty good idea, though, of whether or not he has helped you. From what you've written here, I'm guessing he helped you learn healthier coping strategies than B/P? That would be a good sign... But what about now? Are you still being challenged? Are you still making progress? Or are you rehashing the same things every session? Sometimes there will be periods when it feels as though you're just spinning your wheels, when whatever you're up against looks too frightening, but other times it feels as though you're spinning your wheels because you are. If your T isn't continuing to challenge you, it's probably time to move on.
But you know what? Moving on to another therapist doesn't have to be a bad thing. It doesn't mean anyone failed. It only means that you've finished that one relationship. Nothing more. It doesn't negate the good work you've done together, or mean that someone else is a better therapist. It only means that someone else is a better therapist for you RIGHTNOW.
I know, not so reassuring. Just trying to let you know that there's value in both of those. There's value in staying with someone who's helped you, and there's value in moving on.
One bit of advice for you, though: do make sure you're getting the best possible help for you in getting over the B/P. That's too hard a cycle to break out of, and it will lead to so much pain down the road. If it's bad after a year or a couple of years -- only imagine what it's like after 10 years, or 20 years. We have some people here with that history, and any one of them will tell you that. And we do have an eating disorders board here, too, which you may find helpful.
Good luck, and welcome to Babble.
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