Posted by ghost on March 23, 2006, at 16:37:49
In reply to pressure to sign....trust, posted by B2chica on March 23, 2006, at 11:06:17
b2c,
sorry i'm not around much these days. i try to read your posts when i see them though because i think about you often and hope you're doing okay.
i had to be the pessimist, but i have to tell you-- if you have doubts like you're having, i really don't think she's a good fit for you. (and if she's slipping up about what she really knows, that'd destroy ALL trust for me, but i have terrible issues with that.) anyhow, i also think that even if you yanked the release from her, what if she already talked to him? i don't want to make you paranoid (far from it, i promise!), i'm just saying what i'd be thinking. the "damage" has been done, so to speak.
anyhow. that's just my two cents, for what it's worth. (not even two cents, really.)
i don't think you did anything wrong, though. you gave her the benefit of the doubt and gave her a chance. it seems like she hasn't come through for you. so why keep wasting your time? time is valuable. it'd be good to find a better T, one more trustworthy. but i almost think you'd be better off without one at all if the alternative is this one. she's putting you through so much stress and grief!!! you don't need that. not now. life's too short. find someone new.
it's tough to find someone new. i've thought about trying to get a referral through RAINN (http://www.rainn.org), although I've never tried it so i can't give you any kind of opinion about it.
i dunno. i just think you're better off with that *particular* stress in your life. not now.
i ramble. i'm sorry. i just worry about you. i hope you're doing okay. i don't blame you for cancelling your last appt either.
take care.
*lotsa hugs*
ghost
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