Posted by Emily Elizabeth on March 4, 2006, at 0:15:13
In reply to Phone therapy with ex-T?, posted by pegasus on March 3, 2006, at 9:53:18
I vote against it (sorry if that wasn't what you wanted to hear). The major reason that I think it isn't a good plan is that I think that you will find a phone relationship unsatisfying after having a close relationship in person. I fear that it would just be a shell of the therapy that you experienced before. When you cannot see your T and your T cannot see you, you lose so much of the interaction.
The only experience that I have had w/ therapy over the phone was when I was going through a crisis and I needed to talk to my T on days when she wasn't in the office. On one hand, I was helped by the listening/empathy/advice that I recieved by the contact. On the other, it was nothing like therapy in person. Like I was only getting a part of her and only part of the comfort. Totally different from the real thing.
Also, I wanted to add that it is my impression that T's who will agree to doing regular phone therapy are the exception rather than the rule. So, if you ask and get turned down, please don't take it personally (as much as that is possible!)
However, please don't go back to T2 if s/he is not helpful with the issues that you want to address. It might make sense to start the search for T3. Perhaps T1 and T2 could help you find the person who is the right fit.
Best,
EE
poster:Emily Elizabeth
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