Posted by Dinah on March 3, 2006, at 10:39:32
In reply to Narcissistic Mother of my Grandchildren, posted by NanaS on March 2, 2006, at 15:35:16
It sounds as if she likes money. I don't know that that qualifies her as a Narcissist. That's why diagnosis is left to professionals. How would it be helpful for you to think of her that way? Would it help your relationship with your grandchildren?
If she does something abusive or neglectful to the children, then you have grounds to ask for a change in the custody arrangement. If there are no grounds for a change in the custody arrangement, then she is the *key* to seeing your grandchildren regularly. I'd advise that you set what boundaries toward her that you think are necessary for your well being, and then be as pleasant to her as you can be. Whether or not she's a nice person, or whether or not she's a narcissist. Because you love your grandchildren and conflict that can't lead to any resolution isn't in their best interests.
If your daughter isn't a physician, I don't see how she could be deciding what to prescribe to her children. Even if she works at a clinic, the physicians there have a duty to provide adequate care to their clients.
I don't know if it makes any difference, but there is someone in my family who *appears* to like money very much. I deal with that person exactly as I described above.
Just my two cents, for whatever it's worth.
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