Posted by Dinah on February 28, 2006, at 22:57:20
In reply to Re: Would you be offended? » Dinah, posted by JenStar on February 28, 2006, at 22:18:35
It wasn't the moving, or the being glad I moved. Yes, that hurt. But that's not why I posted. I'd have incorporated it into the framework of our relationship. I need less personal space with him than he does with me. And I know what that means. But it's not really new information.
It stung. But I'll get over it.
It stung again, because it made me feel like my mother. But I'd talk that over with him.
The reason I asked the question here was his lack of comprehension of why it might have hurt, and his responding with the crack about sitting on my lap instead of empathy for a boundary drawing hurting. *After* I told him two weeks in a row that I felt hurt. He didn't have to divine it.
So I was checking to see if my reaction was something that was really difficult to understand. And as I thought, it really wasn't.
It's not a major breach in our therapeutic relationship. It was just something I couldn't quite believe that he didn't grasp, that's all.
I'm not really that angry with him. A bit hurt at the implications, but not angry.
Believe me, I wouldn't even want a perfect therapist. I like his humanity. And boy, do I see a lot of it.
All I ask is that he show up emotionally. Not that he be perfect.
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