Posted by 10derHeart on February 26, 2006, at 22:06:35
In reply to Would you be offended?, posted by Dinah on February 26, 2006, at 15:07:37
Oh wow, Dinah.
I would have been extrememly offended and angry and crying in a NY minute :-(
It's too symbolic, and that fact is not rocket science for a T., for goodness sakes! Moving away when all we ever really crave and fear to lose is closeness? Yeah, a big gg 'grrrrrr!'
Like Tamar said, I'd have felt rejected and ugly - like he just had to physically move away because the whole of what's *me* was a bad thing for him to be *near.* Yuk. Not that one bit of that is even remotely true, of course, but that wasn't your question.
I'm sorry. He really is stressed and off his game, it seems. From all you've written in the past, this sort of inappropriate, insensitive blurting has been a symptom for him before. Too bad he can't save it all up for home, as it should be. In a weird way, it seems you get the brunt from time to time *because* you know each other so well...he certainly feels comfortable to let go and step out of his T. role - somewhat understandable after the horrors both of you have been through with Katrina, but I worry for your emotional well-being.
It can become a double-edged sword, being a Jessica. You're handling it beautifully, even though I'm sure it s*cks more than any of us can know. Keep fighting and trusting your instincts...and posting.
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