Posted by Dinah on February 26, 2006, at 20:04:23
In reply to Re: I asked for a formal separation., posted by fallsfall on February 26, 2006, at 16:39:34
Thanks everyone for your support.
It's been rolling around in the back of my head for a while now, that it would probably have to come to this. And today I was finally ready. Ironically he was more present than he usually is, so I almost waited for a better moment. But I realized that things usually go that way. Just when I'm totally sure that things have to change, we have a good session and I am pacified.
I don't know where things are going to go. But I know they can't keep going on this way. I guess you just get to that point.
Like I told him, the therapeutic relationship doesn't allow much variability. I can't take care of him when he's down or distant, and feel his presence that way. I think if the therapeutic relationship did allow for that, I'd be much better with continuing on with it. But it doesn't so I don't see any other alternative but stepping away before it's irretrievably broken, and counting on what work we've done to sustain the relationship in absence of contact until the time is right for it to be therapeutic again.
I dunno. Maybe I'm wrong.
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