Posted by gardenergirl on February 26, 2006, at 16:14:50
In reply to Re: I asked for a formal separation. » annierose, posted by Dinah on February 26, 2006, at 15:59:01
> Well, believe it or not he was serious. I'm not sure what *that* says about him.
I think that says a great deal about what he values. Let's just say I think his priorities differ from mine.
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> I asked him if that would motivate him better to be present, and he said he wasn't sure if it would motivate him, but he didn't want me to feel cheated.
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> I told him it wasn't that I felt cheated so much as I felt hurt and frantic.He just doesn't get it, does he?
I think your idea of separating versus terminating is a good one. It sounds like you were very clear about what you were proposing. That's good. I hope that however it works out, that it's in YOUR best interest. That's what this therapy is about. I know you care for him. How could you not? But this is about getting your needs met. I'm glad you're letting him know that it's not working right now.
I also know this must be very very difficult. I'm thinking of you.
gg
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