Posted by Emily Elizabeth on February 13, 2006, at 21:28:17
In reply to A Special Valentine's Day, posted by jammerlich on February 13, 2006, at 11:27:20
I think that this is the sort of question that only you can answer.
That said, I have a thought. It sounds like you are at a point right now where you could really use some positive energy and some comfort. Asking deep questions about the past really opens a can of worms. Although it could have a positive result, it could have a negative one too. Most likely it will have both a lot of positive and negative. It will be complicated. So, maybe consider having another meeting w/ her if you want to talk abt that deep, painful, heavy stuff. Keep tomorrow about warmth and connection. Happy memories, accomplishments since you last spoke, new hobbies, a new book you read, etc.
One thing I like to do for such lunches is to bring along some recent pix--just a few--to show my pets, a recent vacation, etc. It makes conversation easy and natural and helps me show the impt things going on in my life. I don't know if that is relevant here, but I thought I'd mention it.
Best,
EEP.S. Could you link me to where the "Jessica" thing started? I've read a few references to it, but I must have missed the 1st thread on the topic. I don't quite get it. Thanks!
poster:Emily Elizabeth
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