Posted by fallsfall on January 31, 2006, at 7:59:56
In reply to Moving on, posted by Daisym on January 31, 2006, at 0:10:13
Perhaps.
But remember that middle school kids are still students. And their teachers talk about them to try to figure out how to help them both academically and emotionally. And middle school isn't a cold place - teachers still have their Jessicas (and High school and college teachers have their Jessicas, and bosses at work have their Jessicas). So there may be more independence, but there is still caring and nurturing.
I do know about this shift, though. For me, it helped stabilize things a bit because I wasn't so panicky all the time. Maybe you are starting to be less fearful that he will abandon you? That you will be unacceptable or too much for him?
And there will be times when you will need him again like you needed him in the past. And he will be there for you. Just like a mother holds her 7th grader on her lap once in a while, or even her 12 grader.
And I found that therapy was able to become more (obviously) constructive. It was constructive before, but it was harder to tell what was happening. Similar to how it is easier to see that middle school kids are learning - because they have homework and tests etc.
He's there for you. He'll be there for you.
(((Daisy)))
Falls.
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