Posted by Daisym on January 29, 2006, at 20:04:57
In reply to Re: Thinking about not talking about my feelings » happyflower, posted by Dinah on January 29, 2006, at 17:54:08
I agree with Dinah. While it was hard, I'm glad I shared how I felt because those feelings complicate lots of other issues. And we've had some really great sessions working with those feelings.
But I have also felt the way you have, "I'm sorry I said anything, nothing is going to change" because it does hurt to feel something for someone when they don't/can't feel it back. If your therapist isn't open to talking about your feelings for him, or you won't use them in therapy, I can see where dropping this subject might be best. I don't happen to believe that he isn't connected to you, I think that the feelings are your side are different. It isn't about your bond, it is about love and sexual fantasies and wanting to be special and wishing you had that in your real life. Given the strain in your marriage and the one-to-one attention you get from your therapist, not to mention how compatible you are with him, it is easy to see why these feelings are so strong. Maybe talking about these feelings will lead to ways to strengthen your marriage.
Good luck with this. I know it is hard.
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