Posted by gardenergirl on January 27, 2006, at 20:38:47
In reply to Need some advice , please! » Daisym, posted by happyflower on January 27, 2006, at 18:49:02
Hey happy,
I'm just thinking...is it possible to just enjoy the bond without thinking too much about it? It is what it is, even if you're not sure what that is. And it will always be with you, even when therapy ends.
I don't know. My T and I had a conversation in my last session that was interesting. I said maybe I was wishing to include him in my family, especially since I had just spent a number of days with family who were openly expressing caring and love. And he countered with maybe I wished he included me in his family. He thought that meant the same thing, but to me its different.
I can think of him however I wish, regardless of how he feels. (Of course, if he expresses how he does or does not feel, that makes it harder to continue a wish if he says something contrary.) But he's free to choose or not to include me in his family, whether I wish it or not. So, it's different.
You can always think of your T as a soul mate even if he does not return the feeling.
Does that help at all, or is it too simplistic?
gg
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