Posted by JenStar on January 21, 2006, at 16:04:23
In reply to Re: How do you push your T to talk about something? » Tabitha, posted by happyflower on January 21, 2006, at 11:38:55
hi happyflower,
I think it would be good to talk about it with him, just to understand again the limitations on the relationship, and what you can/cannot get from it with him. Hoepfully he can respect how you feel, even if he does not reciprocate it, and hopefully he can help you develop some strategies to deal with the feelings and use the insights to make emotional progress.I know it must be frustrating to feel such a connection to him, but then to hear that he doesn't share that same special feeling with you. I'm sorry. Regardless of who the person is, it DOES really hurt when tender feelings are not given back. I'm sorry you're experiencing that. :( I hate that feeling.
He admitted in the past that you both have a lot in common, but that's not the same thing as feeling a strong fateful bond and connection to another person. Maybe he's trying to be firm about it so he doesn't give you any false hopes or misleading actions?
But I definitely agree that you should both talk about it and figure out what is going on on both of your ends. I hope he can be honest with you. And hopefully, even though this is painful now, it will lead to good insights and developments for you.
take care and good luck with this. :)
JenStar
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