Posted by Tabitha on January 21, 2006, at 10:46:24
In reply to How do you push your T to talk about something?, posted by happyflower on January 21, 2006, at 9:23:50
Just tell him you need him to listen, and it's important for you to talk about it even if he doesn't agree. Maybe you'll get more understanding of why it's important, and what you're wanting from him.
With my T I've learned that even when she doesn't agree or really understand some of my ideas, she can at least understand what it means *to me*, and that feels good enough. It also sort of helps me since she's modeling for me a healthy way to respond to differences of beliefs. She doesn't argue or try to convince me, or adopt my belief to please me. I can try to learn from her example how to respond when other people have beliefs I don't share.
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