Posted by daisym on January 11, 2006, at 10:08:35
In reply to I think I'm going to tell my mother **trigger**, posted by antigua on January 11, 2006, at 9:54:45
I understand the urge completely. Who better to get comfort from than your mom? Even if that is a fantasy we carry around, I think the little kid in us will always wish for the mom to make it all better.
I think you are very brave. And it seems like you've put a lot of thought into this. Everything I've read suggests that the major part of the healing comes after the secrets are all out. You are right about the amount of energy it takes to conceal all that and the anger too.
If you know what you want and you are prepared to not get it, then I think you are ready. I'm sure it won't be easy. I'm glad you are preparing yourself in therapy.
I have a thought about protecting our therapists. Don't you think it is natural, and positive, human behavior to protect those we care about? Seems like the most primitive impulse we have. It doesn't mean you don't trust someone, it means you don't want them to hurt. (I'm not saying you do or don't trust your therapist here.) And I don't think that is all bad. Kindness is so rare.
I'm sorry you had a bad episode. I'm not sure I would have called my therapist either. And for me, that is more about protecting myself than him.
Let me know how I can support you the next few weeks as you take this really hard step.
Love and hugs,
Daisy
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