Posted by LegWarmers on January 4, 2006, at 12:05:06
In reply to Re: bad day, posted by daisym on January 4, 2006, at 1:13:16
> I'm sorry you felt so bad today Ghost. I think there is some wisdom in this thread about projecting how you feel outward so people don't approach or appreciate you like we do.
Its so true, when I am in a bad mood I get very differnet responses from people IRL and I know it is because of my affect and how it is radiating outwards to them. Our moods and facial expressions can make or break a hello from a stranger
> I think everyone should be comfortable with their own style but should also be aware of the "risks" of their style. If you really want to be main stream you have to make an effort to be that. I really do think that most people get use to another's appearance pretty quickly and it stops being an issue once they get to know the person behind the costume. And I think many of us wear costumes as part of our emotional armor -- we have something to point to instead of "just" ourselves if people mistreat us or whatever. For me, my costume is usually a suit with heels. It puts me in the "take charge" role and when I walk in a room, people who don't know me will assume I *am* in charge. It is a way of keeping myself safe, in front of the room instead of part of it.
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> I guess this is my long-winded way of saying that no matter what you look like, some group is going to think you aren't one of them. And isn't that sad.
well said!
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