Posted by LauraBeane on December 26, 2005, at 16:32:00
In reply to why do I go to T???, posted by sleepygirl on December 26, 2005, at 11:50:38
I know just what you mean. I am really struggling with this.
Absolutely talk to him about not feeling connected. Talking to your therapist about the relationship *is* working on your stuff. Doubting the veracity of his feelings and whether he could ever really care about someone like you (me) is all about the way you feel about yourself.
And right, it's so frustrating because there's a lot of other stuff going on that sometimes has to take a backseat because time is limited and, as you say, the whole process of examining the relationship is emotionally so very exhausting. Yet I continue to question it, because I can't let it go yet, because I still don't believe.
they say that if it's important, it will come back around. Still, so many things are pressing and need to be addressed in therapy, it's hard for me to feel OK about letting some of it go, even if it's just for the time being. I suppose that's why therapy can take a good long time. things just have to play out themselves out.
I know I believe all this, but it's hard to feel it in my heart. I definitely don't think you're being simplistic. Anything but.
You're certainly not alone in feeling this way. Do bring it up.
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