Posted by jammerlich on December 20, 2005, at 17:53:06
In reply to Re: SHE ACTUALLY CALLED!!!!!! » jammerlich, posted by Dinah on December 20, 2005, at 16:28:55
>>>> As I understand it, the termination was conditional based on your choices differing from the choices she thought you should make? Maybe she sees this as an opening of the door from your side. Of your possibly being willing to make the changes she expects you to make?
<<<<< It very well could be. At the time, she wanted me on AD's and I wouldn't do it. She also said I was too ambivalent about therapy. She said if I ever found myself in a different place, I could come back. Well, this place is definitely a different one from where I was a year ago. Would it be ok for her to assume, without seeing me, that I still need them and therefore refuse me? Obviously, she can. But do you think a T would do that?
>>>>> Maybe she meant that she was happy to hear from you, that she'd been wondering how you were doing, and that she was glad you'd touched base with her.<<<<< Maybe she did, but I really hope not b/c it just feels cruel to me. And I guess it seems like making the call for that reason would be putting her own needs into the equation - or am I missing something here? I probably am.
>>>>> I just hate for you to get your hopes too high.
<<<<< I don't want them too high either. In my experience, it's nearly always best to keep them low. Very, very low. Much less chance of being hurt or disappointed that way. Any ideas how (or even whether) I can proceed with this and still protect my heart? It already feels sort of bruised, battered and just generally pathetic.
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