Posted by fairywings on December 15, 2005, at 12:31:20
In reply to Feeling better. Now what? Help?, posted by gardenergirl on December 14, 2005, at 21:47:06
> I think. I'm actually (gasp!) depression-free for the first time in literally years.
Wow, that's huge! I'm so happy for you GG!
> So, in my session this week, my T commented that I don't have a "template" for being cared for as a non-sick person.
That seems like a great thing to work on in therapy - learning how to be healthy and vibrant, and not worry that you won't get what you need if you're not sick. I guess if you've been in that role for so long there are lots of situations you might not know how to deal with. As far as not having things to deal with in therapy, maybe you could use a sounding board for the everyday stuff you encounter, stuff that knocks you off center.
Ppl will love you bec. you're wonderful, caring, and your interesting, sick or well, but maybe that's something he can help you sort out.
>>I've been depressed a good part of my marriage, too, although when we were dating and in the first few years, I was the "vivacious" GG he met and fell in love with. She's been missing in action for awhile. :(
I bet he's happy to have you back! ; )
> So, what do you talk about in therapy when you're doing well? I think that I'm worried he'll lose interest in me if I'm well, and I'll notice and feel rejected. And frankly, what do you talk about? It seems silly to say, "things are good." I don't know what else to say after that.
Maybe tell him how you feel? I know that seems so trite, but it seems to me there are many ppl on this board who are really good at telling their T's really scary stuff, and this seems like a scary feeling to have. You're good at telling your T stuff, and it's good that you're going through this, and feeling these things bec. you will already know your clients will probably get to this point with you.
> He's right. I don't have a template or not a very defined and "safe" one for being well.Maybe he can help you form that template.
(((hugs)))
fw
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