Posted by Tamar on December 14, 2005, at 17:48:54
In reply to I used Babble a whole lot, posted by Dinah on December 12, 2005, at 21:36:26
I’m very late to this thread; sorry. There’s been something at the back of my mind and I’ve been trying to ‘catch’ it.
There were a few things that occurred to me; I don’t know how often he encounters ‘rational’ you, but if he’s not used to it, maybe that’s why he was disconcerted?
Can you revisit the conversation and try to discover what it was he was going to say that perhaps you needed to hear? Or has the moment passed?
The thing that I was trying to ‘catch’ in my mind finally came to me: it was the thing you mentioned before: your feelings when you heard him casually tell his wife he loved her. I don’t know why, but it seems to me that it’s connected with what was going on in this session.
I’ve been thinking about that from time to time. And trying to imagine how I’d feel if I heard my therapist tell his wife he loved her. And I think I’d feel I wanted that kind of love in my life. Not necessarily from my therapist (who am I kidding?) but realistically from my partner. And of course my partner *does* love me, but I think I want therapeutic love mixed in with partner-love.
I wish I could get a better handle on why this thing about love seems relevant to your session. But of course, maybe I’m clutching at straws.
Tamar
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