Posted by Tamar on December 13, 2005, at 17:14:56
In reply to Re: New kind of therapy » Tamar, posted by daisym on December 11, 2005, at 23:54:05
> Like most thing in therapy I think you give yourself permission to say it all and to blush or fumble or whatever. I find that in certain moods I can talk pretty bluntly about sex with my therapist. And as long as he stays matter of fact I don't get wigged out.
Yeah, matter of fact helps. And yet… I still need *words*. I don’t have a vocabulary for sex. Maybe that’s part of the problem… Actually, I can sometimes give it a vocabulary in writing. But talking… that’s another matter…
> I tell myself to just push through it. I'm sure she has heard it all - and probably more than we could ever guess. I think you are very brave to do this with your husband. How is he doing with it?
It think it’ll be easier to do it together. I think it will help him to understand why things are so difficult for me.
> Maybe your first homework should be a labeling exercise -- take things slow and decide how you are going to describe each move, or touch, or feeling. I can imagine some hilarious moments, as well as some tender ones.
Funny… just the idea of labelling makes me anxious. Maybe that’s because I really need to do it.
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