Posted by Tamar on December 11, 2005, at 18:40:22
So I finally went to marriage therapy with my husband. We had one meeting with the therapist and we got a call from her a few days later saying she was referring us to a different therapist. (Of course, I assumed immediately that she didn’t like me.)
Well, as it turned out, it was a sex therapist she referred us to. Apparently she’d come to the conclusion that our problems centred around the bedroom and didn’t really concern the rest of our relationship. I’m not sure if that’s true… Anyway, we've met once with the sex therapist. And I think there will be homework...
But I think it will be a good thing. I’m pretty sure that working on the sexual stuff will involve transferable skills!
I really like this sex therapist. She seems very down-to-earth and sensible. But she doesn’t let me get away with being vague! When I was in therapy with T1, I used all kinds of euphemisms to avoid being very specific during discussions about sex. He usually knew what I meant. Whereas now I have to say the words. Out loud. So far we haven’t talked much about body parts, but I’m dreading it. If I struggle to say “penetration”, how am I going to say the words that *really* get me hiding behind my hands?
Argh…
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