Posted by one woman cine on December 13, 2005, at 12:50:31
In reply to More Thinking outloud, posted by daisym on December 13, 2005, at 10:24:54
No, not a bad penny, more like a brave one. I don't really know you, but everything I have read from you has shown an enormous amount of courage in grappling with the demons of conflict and discomfort. Keep writing.
I think in therapy both parties are committed to the relationship, if it's to work. Maybe you can try re-framing this by saying, well, the therapy is working, so my therapist is committed to this. I think it is hard to quantify the "how much's". I appreciate you struggle with this, I have also struggled with this issue as well.
I think in families where you fghting for morsels of stale bread, it's hard to deal with this. I used to fight to be the "best" patient - but for me, that was a re-hash of my family stuff.
I am sorry if the post I began has produced this anxiety for you, but I did so to "normalize" it, not to minimize it. I found a balance for myself, after I worked the intense pain which literally brought me to the edge - I found someone who genuinely enjoys working with me (who I do have a relationship with) but that relationship has limits and boundaries (& that are defined by time and place). It doesn't diminish the working relationship, but does help define it better for me.
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