Posted by daisym on December 3, 2005, at 19:44:29
In reply to Re: What they say about us to their spouses.. » Pfinstegg, posted by happyflower on December 3, 2005, at 18:33:44
I'm sure it depends somewhat on personality and on who they have to process stuff with. Since my therapist is in practice with partners, one of whom is his wife, I'm sure they "case conference" to some extent, just as a practical matter. Some of you may remember that last year at this time I had the experience of walking into the waiting room and there was a friend of mine and her daughter. The daughter was seeing one of the partners. It bothered me a lot, which surprised me since my friend knew about my therapist. But what really upset me was when the other therapist referred them for family therapy to my therapist's wife. I just couldn't handle it but I also felt horrible for being so selfish. My therapist asked for my permission to talk to his wife about it before the other family got started with her (I told him about the referral before they even called) and ultimately it didn't work out in her schedule. But it was sticky -- and I hated that they needed to talk about me.
I do know as someone who supervises home visitors that it is important to talk about the work that is happening with clients so that any frustrations or over involvement with a family can be dealt with. Still - I hate the thought of having my feelings discussed with detachment and clinical terms. I'd rather not think about it.
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